online therapy for adults throughout virginia & West virginia
There might be a name for what you’ve been carrying.
You’ve been carrying more than you realize
Maybe what brought you here already has a name, anxiety, depression, grief, or anger. But underneath those, there's often something quieter doing a lot of the driving: shame. It's probably been with you since long before you had a word for it, quietly convincing you that you're not a good person, or that people would run the other way if they really knew you. Even if part of you keeps saying, "It wasn't that bad," another part of you knows it's still shaping how you feel, relate, cope, and see yourself.
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Even when nothing is actually wrong, your mind keeps circling: what could go wrong, what you should have said differently, what you need to prepare for next. It's exhausting to carry, and knowing everything is technically fine doesn't make it stop.
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You're still showing up, still getting through the day, but so much of it feels like something you're pushing through rather than actually living. Feeling this disconnected doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It means something underneath needs attention.
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It might be something you said, something someone said to you, or a moment that still plays on repeat even years later. Even if you’ve told yourself you should be over it by now, whatever it was, it mattered, and it still does.
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You’ve done the Bible studies, said the prayers, tried to have enough faith. It sill feels like you’re falling short somehow. That gap between what you believe about and what you actually feel about yourself can be exhausting to carry.
I believe you deserve more than just getting through the day.
Hi, I’m Holly
I help adults understand where their shame came from, shame that can look like anxiety, depression, or just never feeling like enough, and work through it from the beginning, not just manage it on the surface. My approach is honest, curious, down-to-earth, and direct but compassionate.
I won’t hit you with a bunch of psychobabble or pretend coping skills are the whole solution. Together, we’ll explore the grief, old wounds, self-pressure, and protective patterns that may be driving what you’re feeling, so you can make sense of your story and begin reconnecting with yourself. And we might even laugh sometimes.
How I can help
Support for what’s showing up — and what’s underneath
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You can know everything is okay and still not feel okay. Racing thoughts, the urge to prepare for every possibility, and a mind that won't quiet down can make it hard to relax. We'll work through what's driving the anxiety, without telling you to just stop worrying.
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You can do everything you're supposed to do and still feel completely empty. Getting through the day without feeling present in it, losing interest in things that used to matter, and feeling exhausted no matter how much you rest can leave you feeling far away from yourself. We'll get curious about what's underneath it, instead of treating your symptoms as proof that something is wrong with you.
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Trauma doesn’t always come from one obvious event. Being bullied, criticized, rejected, ignored, shamed, or expected to be perfect as a child can still shape how you see yourself today. We’ll work through those old wounds with compassion, not judgment.
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Faith can be a source of comfort, and also a source of shame. Together we’ll look at the guilt, pressure, and “not Christian enough” feelings that can come from church culture and Bible interpretation, without judgment or easy answers.
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Your life may feel divided into before and after. Feeling numb one day and overwhelmed the next, wondering why you aren't "doing better" by now, or feeling alone even when people are trying to support you can make grief feel isolating. There is no "right" way to feel and no timeline you have to follow.
How it works
You don’t need the perfect words to reach out
1. Reach out
Send a note through my contact page about what’s bringing you here. You don’t need to explain it perfectly or know exactly where to begin.
2. We’ll start where you are
We'll schedule a relaxed 15-minute call to talk through what you're experiencing, what you're looking for, and any questions you have about therapy with me — no need to have your whole story ready.
3. Begin therapy online
If it feels like a good fit, we'll schedule your intake, usually within two weeks, and I'll send everything you need beforehand. From there, we'll meet through Upheal, a secure platform built for online therapy, and begin making space for what's been feeling heavy, confusing, or hard to carry alone.